Hello!

How are you doing? What’s going on chez-toi?  What are your hopes and aspirations?….. Your successes and challenges?…..  How have the last few months been for you?  Let me know.

It’s so wonderful to feel the warmth of the sun again and enjoy a few sunny days.  It gives everyone a lift and lightens the mood.  

I haven’t written a newsletter in a while – and this morning I woke up early, put pen to paper and this is the result.  A culmination of ruminations and reflections, observations and optimism, visions and views – so pull up a chair, grab a coffee (a large one) and see what resonates with you (or doesn’t), I’d love to know.  Several subjects to cover, but they all have common threads, ones that we can unpick, repair, replenish and renew with positive intent and heartfelt healing.

My lovelies, our awareness is shifting big time!  All the things that were hidden in plain sight are being revealed, fizzing to the surface like effervescent bubbles of hope, capturing our attention.  From pain comes potential for positivity and this is a great opportunity to look at things from that perspective.

Patterns repeat and multiply, some are in our DNA, some are acquired and some are inflicted.  Some enhance our experiences, others can be destructive.  Patterns exist.  

Let’s have a look at the ones that have dramatically been brought to our awareness and are shaking up the mass consciousness, which we are all a part of. 

MUSINGS PART 1

#ME TOO – was about facing FEAR, inequality and sexual domination, repression, suppression, physical, emotional and mental abuse, disempowerment, disrespect, misuse of privilege, power and authority, control and male dominance. Why and how did Weinstein do what he did?  BECAUSE HE COULD, it’s as simple as that.  Abuse of power, if not challenged forges a path of destruction.  Invisible, maybe, to anyone not closely involved, but none-the-less, hiding in plain sight. 

Now with increased awareness, publicity and court action these intolerable situations will hopefully no longer be allowed to happen as those that stepped forward have set the wheels in motion to protect the futures of vulnerable women and men in an industry that needed focus and attention. 

TAKEAWAY – UNTIL YOU FIND IT, NEVER GIVE UP LOOKING FOR THE RIGHT PATH 

…… And paedophiles like – Epstein, Glitter, Saville, Harris
to name a few – DID WHAT THEY DID, BECAUSE THEY COULD – enabled by those in the know who either turned a blind eye or actually facilitated this depravity, because they felt the ‘celebrity’ was more powerful than they were, or they were driven by monetary gain.  In fear and awe of the individual’s celebrity status, social standing, their persona, they forsake their moral values putting vulnerable souls at risk.  

I trust that the bravery of those who came forward and ‘outed’ the abusers has afforded them some level of resolution.  They have absolutely highlighted the aspect of ‘hiding in plain sight’ and brought it to our awareness.  We can’t unsee what we have seen, but we can change the way we respond and our levels of acceptance and do more to protect the young and the vulnerable.

TAKEAWAY – HAVE THE COURAGE AND CONFIDENCE TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE

BLACK LIVES MATTER – is about FEAR, inequality, repression, suppression, power, control, disrespect, disempowerment, separation, segregation, slavery, emotional, physical, mental and financial abuse, domination and manipulation.

Centuries of inequality, misconceptions, fear and non-acceptance show history repeating itself time and time again.  If things don’t change they WILL stay the same.  All lives matter.  When the elastic band of intolerance and inequality is stretched until it snaps, things need to be addressed.  History repeats, and sadly, the patterns that instigated and initiated a culture based on enslavement and greed still exist in our modern world.  The threads of past patterns interwoven with the present will affect our future – UNLESS we address those imbalances and contribute, in our own way.  Climbing the massive mountain of mistakes created by past generations to put right the injustices of the past is no mean feat.  The only way to create a better tomorrow is to heal the patterns of the past, to take responsibility, be open and aware and effect positive change. 

TAKEAWAY – HEAL THE PAST AND LET OUR TODAYS CREATE BETTER TOMORROWS

NARCISSISM

Another subject which has been growing in momentum and is very topical at the moment is NARCISSISM / Narcissistic Abuse / Narcissistic Personality Disorder.  Apparently we all display degrees of narcissism, I guess that’s part of being human, but I’m talking about extremes here.  

Narcissistic Abuse is about FEAR, power, control, inequality, it’s about winning at all cost, physical, emotional, mental, spiritual and financial abuse, domination, manipulation, disrespect, it’s about stealing and extinguishing the light of another’s soul to feed the their own insatiable desire for attention. Narcissists TRULY BELIEVE they are the most important person in the room because they are the most important person in their universe.  How and why do they behave this way?  BECAUSE THEY CAN – and they will do so for as long as the loving, misguided souls they have deceived and mislead down a constructed rabbit hole of false trails, continue to ENABLE them. 

A narcissist’s reality is very different from everyone else’s’.  They create their own reality bubble in which they reside, and will gradually impose that false reality on others until their reality becomes yours.  (Just to add here, when I say ‘you’ and ‘your’ I mean ‘one’, but that to me sounds pretentious.)  Narcissists apply similar strategies to cult leaders, using indoctrination and brainwashing to strip you of your individuality, your personal thought processes and emotional expression, they are extremely clever and highly manipulative.  Don’t get me wrong, they can be the most playful, caring, compassionate souls, especially in public, and will go to great lengths to maintain this facade of fakery for as long as anyone is watching.  They are attracted to kind-hearted, authentic, and vulnerable souls that they can mould and manipulate.  A pretty sad state of affairs.  So, use you ENERGY RADAR, and go with your gut instinct, your intuition.  If it feels right it most probably is right. If it feels wrong it definitely is wrong.  If you get a NARCISSIT ALERT and feel uncomfortable, run for the hills!!

On TV, Emmerdale is currently running a brilliantly acted storyline raising awareness of domestic abuse and narcissism.  It’s a team effort with everyone playing their part perfectly.  Tom as the raving covert narcissist, portrays aggressive, passive aggressive, manipulative, egotistical, entitled, controlling behaviours designed to grind down and extinguish his new wife, Beth’s, inner light.  Beth, a beautiful, intelligent, bubbly soul is reduced to second guessing everything, walking on eggshells and in turmoil because it’s increasingly difficult for her to distinguish between the blurred lines of two different realities, as she gets more and more sucked into Tom’s bubble.  To everyone else Tom is the doting husband, caring, kind and loving.

Now Tom, no doubt has had a troubled past and carries many wounds and emotional scars – but don’t we all, one way or the other?  The difference here is two-fold; 

They are extremely judgemental and only superficially interested in anything that doesn’t revolve around them.

Instead of addressing their issues they bury them deep and develop a survival mechanism of manipulating and controlling others in order fill the void within.  It’s called narcissistic supply.  Narcissists play out their wounds and are masters of projection – projecting their behaviours and responses onto others, making out they are the manipulating, heartless, provocative instigator of misery instead of themselves!  Good or bad, happy or sad, it makes no difference, they just have to have a supply, to have the focus and attention on them – they just need an ENABLER.  Unfortunately, that’s the kindhearted soul with good intent who gets unwittingly drawn into the drama and won’t know what’s hit them!  

This is how it starts, they rescue you, love-bomb you, patch up your holes, inflate your sense of self-worth, create co-dependency, then out of the blue, and often violently, literally burst your bubble.  Your pseudo-reality implodes causing devastation. Things eventually calm down and they start patching up the holes again and the ‘enabling’ cycle of abuse continues.  Each time those repeating patterns become more engrained and more embedded and it becomes harder to be objective.  The lines become more blurred and boundaries eventually disintegrate.  

Narcissists like Tom, strip you of your light, your dignity, your sense of self and mould you, shape you, into another version of yourself in order to fulfil their needs.  Believe me, it’s all about them. They will stoop to immeasurable depths to achieve their goal.  The sad thing is that they too have a level of vulnerability about them, so it’s easy for you to genuinely want to help them, but that’s just a hook to reel you in.  They don’t actually want your help, they have a huge superiority complex and believe they are more elevated than you, on every level, so how could you possibly be of help!  What a shame.  What a waste of energy.  In the end they lose the love, support and status they crave, moving on to different enabler, and so the pattern repeats.  ‘Ah, but what if the narcissist heals their wounds?’ you ask.  Well, looking at the research and listening to experts on the subject, it’s highly unlikely that they will ever truly admit that they have a problem or unresolved issues, let alone address them.  After all everyone else is to blame, not them, they will just bury them deeper and carry on.

Challenge a narcissist at your peril!  Walking away may be easier. 

TAKEAWAY – TREASURE AND REINFORCE YOUR OWN REALITY

Do you see the common threads running through these emotive subjects?  They keep popping up SO THAT WE TAKE NOTICE so that we understand our own lives better and the lives of those less fortunate.  So that we can bring about change, become more tolerant without tolerating lies and manipulations.  There are people ‘hiding in plain sight’ all over the world, with increased awareness and healing light I’m sure more will be revealed.

Don’t let another destroy your path through their weakness.

No individual or organisation has the right to control or dictate how you lead your life.  Take control of your own narrative.

Please reconnect with the beautiful soul that you are, at every opportunity.  Please, be radiant.  Please Be YOU. 

From an energy healing perspective, emotional pain, anger, hurt, disempowerment, violation, along with mental, physical and emotional stress patterns, can all be released, lifted away and healed.  Reconnecting you with your personal courage, confidence, beauty and self-belief.  

I have dealt with most of these scenarios, either personally, or professionally during my police service or through energy work.  I have the necessary skills, experience and expertise to help.

I hope you have enjoyed my Musings Part 1, I would love to receive your feedback, let me know if you are interested in reading Part II.  And if you would like to explore further please get in touch.

Take care and keep smiling, love and best wishes, Sheree xxx